How to Say Goodbye at a Funeral

Funerals can be hard and stressful to organise—especially for a loved one. While dealing with the loss of a friend or relative, you are also left with the task of planning an event that respectfully memorialises the person. At the same time, you are working through your own complex emotions and navigating an unfamiliar world. With everything from catering, guest speakers and invitations, to something as simple as printing and framing a photo—your mind can be awash with tasks, timetables and things to tick off the list. Many people find themselves lost for words when it actually comes time for the funeral on the Gold Coast. Still, it’s important to find a way to properly ‘goodbye’ to a loved one as this offers closure, comfort and resolution at the time you need it most. 


A Favourite Song

Music has a way of saying what words can’t. Playing a favourite song of the deceased is a beautiful way to pay tribute to their memory. It allows everyone in the room to sit in shared remembrance of their loved one and can be paired with a slideshow of photos if needed. Selecting the song can also be a cathartic process on its own—as you go through artists and lyrics that bring memories of the departed to life. While remembering your loved one can be difficult, it is also an essential part of the grieving process. If you are planning a funeral on the Gold Coast, organise a song to pay tribute to your loved on.


A Poem

There are many famous poems that are read at funerals. It is not hard to find one that suits the proceedings and the memory of your loved one. Some examples are ‘Do Not Stand At My Grave and Weep’ by Mary Elizabeth Frye, ‘Do Not Go Gentle Into That Good Night’ by William Blake and ‘To Sleep’ by John Keats. Funeral poems give you the chance to speak of the departed in a way that is universal and shared—a trial all of us must, at some point, experience. Not every aspect of a goodbye needs to be personalised. Many people are just not in a place where they can sit down and write or stand up and say their goodbyes.


Create a Memorial Book

Memorial books allow everybody attending the funeral to say goodbye in their own way. This includes telling stories, recounting memories, supplying photos and anything else they feel comfortable doing. A memorial book is a very special way of saying goodbye, because it lets you share your goodbyes with others—friends, well-wishers, acquaintances, family. The purpose is to celebrate the deceased’s life in the form of shared connection. People can write lyrics, poems or even a letter to the departed. This eases the burden of the person planning the funeral because they are now able to say goodbye with the support of others.

If you need help planning a funeral or memorial on the Gold Coast, contact A Gentle Touch Funerals today. Our team will walk you through the steps and make the whole process as stress and pain-free as possible. Call us on 07 55220099

Check out our other article on dealing with grief.

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