A viewing can play a meaningful role in the grieving process, helping loved ones begin to accept the reality of the death. It also provides a quiet, personal moment to say goodbye and to place special mementos—such as letters, cards, photos, or flowers—with the person.

Some families choose to spend time with their loved one a few days before the service, while others prefer a brief viewing shortly beforehand.

Children, too, can benefit from being included in funeral preparations. Seeing the person who has died and having the chance to say goodbye can support their understanding and acceptance of death.

Today, most experts agree that children should be given the choice to view their loved one and attend the funeral, if they feel comfortable doing so.

Carrying the coffin is a meaningful act of participation, not something reserved only for professionals. It allows family and friends to play an important role in the farewell, making the service more personal and significant.

If you wish to have pall bearers, it’s best to approach them in advance of the service. Many friends and relatives feel honoured to be asked. This can also be a thoughtful way to include service clubs the person belonged to, or to involve extended family such as cousins, nieces, and nephews.

In Australia, the most common method of carrying the casket is at arm’s length. While shoulder carrying is more typical in some other cultures and is often used in military or VIP funerals, it can certainly be arranged if the family prefers.

Regardless of the chosen method, it’s ideal to have six pall bearers to ensure the task is handled smoothly and respectfully.